Blown Away That This Grown Man Could Talk Like That to a 20 Year Old Hostess

Posted: January 3, 2014 in Dumb Customers, Stories
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I was a hostess at a fairly popular restaurant close to a movie theater. This can attract some large families on busy nights, so we strongly suggest reservations in our advertising.

It’s a Friday evening and we’re already on a wait. This family of seven saunters in, and the father asks us for a table. I tell him that we do have about a 40-minute wait, but if they’d like to wait on the patio and order an appetizer, there is space for them.

He frowns, whispers to his wife, then turns back to me. “Nah, we’re going somewhere else. Go fuck yourself.”

I almost didn’t believe I had heard it at first. Seriously? I was blown away that this father, husband, adult-fucking-man felt like it was OK to say that to a 20-yr old hostess. What.


  1. Lisa Kane says:

    He was rude to you and I don’t think he cared how old you were. I feel bad for the people at his next restaurant choice!

  2. Wow. Just wow. What an maroon.

    ~ Darling

  3. Hatsh says:

    Haha, what a twat. I’m sorry to hear this guy was a dickweed. I did some time in food services, and it could be splendor, or it could be hell. I have a lot of empathy for the hostess! It’s funny tho, because when people act out like this- it’s actually projection, about how they feel about themselves. What the hell did he think?- he was gonna waltz right in there, use his superior man complex to get a table? *smack forehead* oh right! I forgot how EVERYONE GETS THEIR WAY ALL THE TIME. D’uh. Silly me. The guy probably has an inferiority complex complimented by low self esteem and social anxiety. I understand this combination makes you stupid all the time. Although… stupid people are really good at being stupid… so good, they have to practice to keep it up. Maybe he was practicing? ;)

    On a note on the comment before mine- Grace is a pardon, Mercy is getting what you don’t deserve. I would argue that as her elder (because anyone 5 years -a generation- older than you is historically considered your elder) he is obligated to demonstrate the virtues. And although you could demonstrate forgiveness to him- what he did was verbal abuse, belittling, undermining in a public setting, and forcibly drawing attention by using persecuting language as a means to blame you and control your actions- humiliation > this is all an abuse complex. You owe him nothing. God saw what happened- you’re not spiritually responsible for this man- maybe he needs to get up off his ass and pray for himself. Furthermore, anyone who uses their sentences in that format with “Nah – we’re going somewhere else. Go F yourself.” demonstrates cycle behaviour. The sentence is too well timed and casual for this to be the result of a fight. He’s used to telling people off and catching them off guard, or else he wouldn’t have used an example of emotional contentment “Nah we’re good….” at the beginning of the sentence. He intentionally said that so you would be caught off guard when he ended with a bolder, more intrusive statement, and wouldn’t be able to have a come back fast enough.

    -wow. after writing all that, I totally forgot how much my training has affected me as a human being and a blogger. sheesh. I used to work in behavioural analysis, and today do a lot of professional profiling and scenario mapping for a living. haha I’ll stop now. :)

  4. Reblogged this on womanwalkininfaith and commented:
    I can only imagine how that poor 20 yr old Hostess must have felt. Whom ever the ‘man’ was totally out of order! I once upon a time was also in this industry. I too am totally blown away by the utter RUDENESS AND SELFCENTEREDNESS that seems to abound. Personally, I try to focus on all the good ones, the ones just feel good to be around, the ones #FightingtheGoodFight by choice. Seems you are one so let me tell you what helps me. I #pray and Refocus. I get to choose my #perspective. Who knows, this ‘man’ may have just been in an argument before getting there, mayhap anything could have been behind how he choose to behave. Sometimes, we just got to give them some #Grace. And have we not had those days, life was just happening and we needed folks to just listen and show us a bit of grace for the moment. Thank you for sharing this story, I enjoyed it and it made me even more grateful to have met another disabled person in Reno this day that went out of his way to try to aid me. So don’t give up hope on humanity just yet. Try praying for him to have a peace~filled and unstressed weekend. You may be amazed to find that it will also help you.

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