Industry Life: Gay Waiter Gets Hateful Message From Christian Customers

When you eat at a restaurant, it’s customary to leave a tip for your server, especially if the service they provided was “excellent.” That’s how a group of so-called “Christians” described the performance of their waiter at a restaurant in Kansas earlier this week. But instead of a tip, the anti-gay Christians left a message telling their waiter that they refuse to leave a tip for him because he’s gay.


Anti-gay Christian customers refused to tip their waiter at Carraba’s Italian Grill because he’s gay.

The waiter, who has declined to identify himself, works at Carraba’s Italian Grill in Overland Park, Kansas. According to KMBC television network , the incident occurred after he had treated the bigoted patrons well throughout their meal. But despite the great service, the anti-gay Christian diners decided not to tip him and left this hateful message:

“Thank you for your service, it was excellent,” the anti-gay Christians’ message read. “That being said, we cannot in good conscience tip you, for your homosexual lifestyle is an affront to GOD. Queers do not share in the wealth of GOD, and you will not share in ours. We hope you will see the tip your queer choices made you lose out on, and plan accordingly. It is never too late for GOD’s love, but none shall be spared for queers. May GOD have mercy on you.”

Other customers were outraged by the hateful message left by the anti-gay Christian patrons.

Other customers were disgusted by the overt display of hate and spread news of the incident via social media. “It’s honestly despicable,” Will Rogers told KMBC. “It’s not different than saying I’m not tipping you because you’re black, or a Jew, or anything like that. In this day and age, being gay, it’s not really any cause for a fuss.”

Despite the outrage and outpouring of support, the waiter says he doesn’t want people to send him money to make up for the poor treatment he received. “The offers to help pay me back are much appreciated, but not at all needed. I’d prefer to let my work ethic and my service do the talking, nothing else,” he said. In the face of persecution, this waiter is acting more Christ-like than the “Christians” who chose to hate him instead of reward him. As the ‘Golden Rule’ states, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

This isn’t the first time that bigotry has been displayed at a restaurant in recent months.

Restaurants have become a battleground as of late for people who want to express their hatred and bigotry of others. Just last month, an African-American waitress at a Tennessee Red Lobster found the words “None, n***er” written on the receipt by her racist customers as her tip. A month earlier, a South Carolina restaurant denied service to a group of African-Americans on the orders of a white customer who felt “threatened” by them.

Community rallies to support the mistreated waiter, and reject the anti-gay Christian’s bigotry.

All three of these incidents seem to highlight an emerging trend among racists and bigots. In their opposition to anti-discrimination laws and civil rights, many have apparently decided to openly display their hatred as some sort of protest. They seem to yearn for the days of Jim Crow in the South when restaurants were ground zero for discrimination. But instead of letting the haters win, the community of Overland Park is rallying against it. Family, friends, and customers intend to dine at Carraba’s on Friday night in a show of unity and support for the mistreated waiter. This show of support is proof that most people, even in the red state of Kansas, reject the hatred and bigotry of anti-gay Christians.

This type of behavior is disgusting and inhumane. supports the food service worker that was attacked and will continue to stand up for anyone that has been mistreated.


  1. satire1982 says:

    People like this are everywhere, especially social media. I’m not a fan of hateful, self-proclaimed Christians. I believe, and have met, many Christians who are no more Christ like than the people they judge.

    I don’t condone homosexuality, but I believe in the concept of free will. People should be able to live their lives as they see fit as long as they are not harming others, or breaking the law.

    I have a few female family members who have been living as homosexuals for the past three years, and my feelings about them will never change.

    I’m a straight woman who supports the constitutional rights of homosexuals.

  2. I posted this on Craigslist Nyc. More people should know what people in the restaurant industry are subjected to daily and more importantly these “guests” should be aware of how wrong, ignorant, hurtful, “raised-by a pack of wolves” they really are. Without blogs like this, offenders ride off into the sun-set to share their inhumane poison with countless other unsuspecting victims.

    Please take a moment to post this link on your FB page, twitter, yelp and even Craigslist account if you can! Just copy and paste this link: and put the title at the top of where ever you post.

    Thank you!

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